Well, no matter how much you avoid it, you may end up singing. It's almost inevitable. Anal sex is one of those things that, when you were a teenager, you said, “Hey, there's no break!” But then, as you get older, you start to get into it. It sort of starts to catch your attention and it sort of does, but it sort of doesn't.
You want to but you don't dare, I know. We grew up thinking that it was just one way or for gays. It is not.
It hurts, it's a mess... We all think the same thing and insecurities at first are part of this.
So the best thing you can do is prepare and educate yourself so that when you say 'today is what it is', you enjoy it as much as possible.
I would tell you that the more you practice it, the more you will like it. I don't want to sell you dreams that you'll love it the first time, because it's probably not what you expect. Like sex with vaginal penetration, who liked it the first time?
Well, as with any other sexual act, anal sex requires preparation, so we give you some basic tips to help you prepare and enjoy another wonderful hole in our body :)
1. Experiment on your own.
Are you new to anal? So we recommend you try it alone first. As with conventional sex, it is very important that you start playing with your anus on your own, so that you become familiar with the sensations.
You can use your fingers, dilators, anal plug or dildo, and introduce them little by little so that you can know your limits. Thus, little by little and with practice, you will feel more comfortable. It is normal to feel discomfort the first few times.
Therefore, the best thing you can do is to practice anal play alone. And this is doubly beneficial.
As sexologist and Sex With Dr. Jess podcast host Jessica O'Reilly says, “before you even consider putting something up someone else's butt, make sure you explore your own butt.”
2. Talk about it with your partner.
Anal sex can be very overwhelming. While it is pleasurable, it might not be pleasurable at first. So, it is very important that you discuss the plan to follow and the considerations that you must have and respect.
Couples usually have more sex than they actually talk about sex. Talking about it (like everything in sex) can make the difference between a traumatic or rich experience. Both must know and be very clear about the agreements.
If either of you wants to stop, everything should stop and not press to continue. Not only can you hurt your partner, but it doesn't deal with anything forced.
3. Take care of hygiene.
Many people reject anal sex because they consider it unhygienic and they dislike the idea of touching 'that part' of their bodies. But this is also part of misinformation.
There are cleaning techniques and tips that are normally used before anal sex to make the experience comfortable and pleasurable.
But you have to remember that, either way, you will be putting something into your pocket, so you can expect that something will not go as planned and the act will be a little less clean than you thought.
It is what it is!
In addition to soap and water or baby wipes, for example, there are enemas for deeper and more complete cleansing. You can also put towels on the bed or any surface they are on in case anal play gets a little messy.
At no time... read me carefully... at no time do you allow the penis to come close to your vulva after it has made contact with your anus or rectum. This can lead to multiple vaginal infections.
4. With a condom, please.
We always, always recommend having sex with a condom. And, in addition to protecting against sexually transmitted infections, it also protects against bacteria associated with feces. That is, the poop.
And, as we mentioned in the previous point, if you switch from anal to vaginal penetration, use a new condom.
5. Good lubrication is a MUST!
Look, that has to be well lubricated. The more lubricated the better. If you're starting out in this, don't try with saliva because friends, you're not going to have a very good time.
If you have doubts about knowing which is the most recommended for anal sex, you can read our guide to choose the lubricant you need.
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6. Don't get stuck!
The more you lock yourself in, the more you close that back door. Breathe, flow and enjoy it.
Note: These tips apply to anyone with a butt who wants to have sex of this type either with her partner (regardless of her gender identity) or experiment with strap-ons or other toys for penetration.
